Trusting Your Gut

 


Emotional abuse is like this - a frog leaps into a cool pot of water and splashes around.  It's comfortable and sees no reason to jump out.  After a while, the frog notices that it's sleepy, because perhaps, and it's not quite sure but it might feel a little warmer than when it first jumped in.  Over time, the frog is drowsy and so it cannot muster the energy to even think about jumping out of the pot.  Before you know it, the frog has been boiled!

I have heard so many examples of people who didn't trust their instincts and paid a heavy price.  As a domestic abuse survivor, I can definitely think back to moments when I had an instinct that something wasn't quite right.  On a spiritual level, I had 2 or 3 dreams, which I didn't understand then but which make perfect sense now.  On an emotional level, I wasn't happily married, the marriage was the bane of my life and my most prioritised topic for prayer, fasting, intercession and counsel.  On a physical level, every time I thought about the marital situation, I experienced a stress response in my stomach, which led to illnesses that I am still managing 4 years later.

Feminine intuition is often spoken about and highly respected.  I believe that both men and women, and those in between, have an inner voice that prompts us to corrective action.  The more detrimental the situation, the louder and clearer the voice.  Learn the language, and trust the guidance, because although your Village should help you to make good relational choices, at the end of the day, it's your life, your decisions to make and your health and well-being at stake.

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Dr. Monica is available to meet your learning organisation's training and consultancy needs. Contact her at vineacademy2024@gmail.com.

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